The Love Dare days 1,2 and 3

I have decided to start doing the Love Dare from the movie Fireproof. I wouldn't say that our marriage is straight up disaster, however it is in need of some serious reconstruction. Since my son was born, I have been wanting to be closer to God, and my husband is not there. I also want to show affection to my husband and since our son was born...something switched in my husband and he no longer wants to be affectionate or really try in our marriage anymore. I had given up and I was just going through the daily motions with him, not really trying to do anything to please him or noticing or acknowledging when my husband DID do something that made me happy. I feel terrible for this, but I think my husband started to notice my lack of enthusiasm in our relationship...and I don't know how long he has been trying, but it really feels like this time he is genuinely TRYING to make permanent changes in our relationship. I hope he hadn't been trying to too long, because I just hadn't been noticing...
But as of the other day I have decided that I am going to put an effort into our relationship as well. I made a marriage vow to God and my husband and I feel like I am not keeping my part of the vows anymore. So I started the 40 Day Love Dare, and I will write every day how it is going!
So here is Day 1,2 and 3.
Day 1:
Resolve to say nothing negative about your spouse:
I was very good at this today. I did not say anything negative to him or about him today. As a matter of fact, I talked good about him to a friend and told her how happy I was that I know he is trying his best to make things work out this time. However, on day 2 of the love dare, I did talk negatively about his parenting...and how he does not wake up with our son and NEVER has. I guess I am still pretty upset that he used to be so uninvolved. Luckily my son sleeps through the night now, and I just need to let the past go. I am trying to stay more positive and I am NOT going to bash him to anyone that will listen anymore!
Day 2:
Do at least one unexpected gesture to your spouse as an act of kindness:
I don't think he noticed, but I did three kind gestures... One of them was write on his Facebook wall while he was at work "I love you". Two of the other ones were intimate and it's best if I don't disclose details on a blog :)
Day 3:
Buy your spouse something that says "I was thinking about you today":
This was pretty hard with today being Thanksgiving and him spending the day with me (we went to the Patriots/Lions game together). BUT, we went to Meijer later on this evening and I had to sneak off and buy him a card, which he read and smiled. (He's not much of a card reader, but I had to do something that showed I was thinking of him....I didn't have a lot of money to spend either!)